A Story of Loss: Bob and Winnie Houk

Joseph David Houk, age 24, just 4 days shy of his 25th birthday.  Joe didn’t have to say much, he just gave it.  He was filled with a contagious kindness and had an overwhelming smile. He also had an unusual sense of humor that is sorely missed.  He had a great deal of pride in serving his country and was extremely proud of working on the Flight 93 National Memorial in Somerset County.

For people currently dealing with addiction in their families, I would say never give up on your loved one.  Hope for a better day.  Do what is best for your family because there is no cure-all or guarantees.  What works for one family may not work for you.  Don’t be afraid to try a variety of things, just keep trying and savor the little victories, the good day, the smile, the love. 

This was shared with me by a friend, after our Joe’s death(September 30, 2016), and has had the biggest impact on me & my entire family:

“I had my own notion of grief. 

I thought it was the sad time that followed the death of someone you love.

And you had to push through it to get to the other side.  But I’m learning there is no other side.

There is no pushing through.

But rather, there is Absorption. Adjustment.  Acceptance.

And grief is not something you complete, but rather, you endure.

Grief is not a task to finish and move on, but an element of yourself – an alteration of your being.

A new way of seeing.  A new definition of self.”

What we have come to find is that our new reality is to adjust, accept, and endure. 

~Winnie and Bob Houk and family

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